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blamebrampton ([personal profile] blamebrampton) wrote2016-12-01 01:21 am

Oh …

My mother rang me early this morning.

This is a thing she does occasionally, usually when I am working regular hours, or when she has turned up unexpectedly in the same city as me and thinks we should eat together. But sometimes, as today, because someone has died. This time it was her brother, my uncle. A difficult man, who neither of us was close to and who we both ended up on speaking terms with only after a lot of patience on our parts and effort on his.

So it is that strange sort of thing where you are sad that someone has died, and that they did not seem to be able to make happy choices much of the time, but know that you can't in fairness take a week out to be miserable about the whole thing, because you don't have a week's worth of decent memories to sustain it.

But I do recall a thing he said the last time we saw each other: that he wouldn't want to see Donald Trump as president of the USA. I feel that – not for the first time, though almost certainly for the last – he's taken a perfectly understandable position to an illogical extreme.

[identity profile] illereyn.livejournal.com 2016-11-30 02:27 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry to hear that about your uncle. *hugs*

[identity profile] takarai-karin.livejournal.com 2016-11-30 02:30 pm (UTC)(link)
Very sorry about your loss *hugs* if you want.
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[identity profile] mama-pyjama.livejournal.com 2016-11-30 02:30 pm (UTC)(link)
I didn't want to let let this pass unremarked. I am sorry for your loss, because even difficult people leave a hole in the fabric of your life. And your last line made me laugh, but also wince as it is also the sort of thing my difficult uncle would say...
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[personal profile] germankitty 2016-11-30 05:20 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry for your loss. *hugs*

[identity profile] enchanted-jae.livejournal.com 2016-11-30 05:25 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry to hear about your uncle.
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[identity profile] 17catherines.livejournal.com 2016-12-01 01:54 am (UTC)(link)
I am sorry for your loss.
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[personal profile] arcanetrivia 2016-12-01 10:08 pm (UTC)(link)
that he wouldn't want to see Donald Trump as president of the USA. I feel that – not for the first time, though almost certainly for the last – he's taken a perfectly understandable position to an illogical extreme.

*snerk* I saw similar remarks about Fidel Castro - apparently he once said something about swearing to live to see the US destroyed, so of course once we elected Trump he promptly kicked the bucket.

[identity profile] valkyrie17.livejournal.com 2016-12-02 05:54 am (UTC)(link)
Sorry for your loss. Even the difficult people in our lives leave us missing something when they are gone.

[identity profile] winnett.livejournal.com 2016-12-02 03:46 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry to hear it.

When my father died I was more pissed than sad... it was all due to his own poor choices. I wish you closure in any way, and never feel guilty about not feeling torn up about it.

[identity profile] dharawal.livejournal.com 2016-12-03 05:07 am (UTC)(link)
I am sorry for your loss, unfortunately I felt much the same way when my father died, I just did not have that many pleasant memories that I could reflect on, and while I'm sad that he's gone, I'm not sad on my own behalf, but more for my Sister who is having trouble coming to terms with his passing. It hurts me tremendously to see her so upset and now coming to Christmas, the first one without him and also the anniversary of my mum's passing I'm worried at how she will cope.

[identity profile] nenne.livejournal.com 2016-12-06 02:56 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry to hear about your uncle.