He's lovely, really ...

[blamebrampton]

Mr Brammers on Tuesday night: Now listen, since you were late getting me your birthday list, and yesterday was hell and today was a holiday, I'm only going to have tomorrow to go shopping for your birthday, so things may not be as exciting as I was planning.

Me: What's wrong with shopping on Thursday?

Him: Well, you'll want something on Thursday morning, won't you? And then you'd want to do presents rather than have me go late-night shopping.

Me (testily): For my birthday that falls on Friday?

Him: Ah. Friday. Not Thursday, then.

Me: How long have we been together?

Him. Thirteen years. Fourteen? Is it fifteen? You do a really good outraged face, you know!


NB: You lot are all quite allowed to forget my birthday, because god knows I am shocking at keeping up to date with my flist's (and at my age, it does not hurt people to forget a few years have passed), but he and I have been together since 1995! Grrrrr!

On a related note, ayes_sid  for yesterday and to separatrix  for tomorrow! I am sending you great gift and relaxed Cake Day wishes!

Comments

[kareina.livejournal.com]

I don't think that not knowing the days of the week in relation to the dates of the month counts as forgetting your birthday. He clearly knew the date, or he wouldn't be worried about it at all. He is just off on the days of the week this week.

PS Happy Birthday!

[blamebrampton.livejournal.com]

No, he sincerely thought it was the 28th. Grrrrr!

[kareina.livejournal.com]

Oh, dear. Does he get partial credit for A) getting the month correct and B) thinking it was the day earlier, rather than the day later?

I wonder if you had a particularly noteworthy celebration one year on a Friday or Saturday before your birthday, and that date stuck with him because he so enjoyed the day?

[blamebrampton.livejournal.com]

I think it's just generalised vagueness, but I suppose I will take the vague with all of his good qualities. He is funny and good looking, which is better than humourless, ugly and good at dates ;-)

[alienor77310.livejournal.com]

I forgave my ex for forgetting because he forgot his own b-day. I just took a day off and did my own thing. He could come along if he wanted to.

[blamebrampton.livejournal.com]

His birthday is the only one he recalls. The rotter.

[momebie.livejournal.com]

Hm, it appears he's doing what my boyfriend calls 'KL Math', which started when we'd been together six months or so and I started thinking it had been a year. It's been over nine now, but he still has to remind me when the anniversary most of the time.

[blamebrampton.livejournal.com]

Mr B is vaguely aware that we must have an anniversary, but that's about as far as it goes ;-) He's good looking at least ...

[gracilejenn.livejournal.com]

My husband asked me yet again, 'Your birthday's the 25th, right? The 22nd?" but I have to let it go because I NEVER remember our anniversary. I know one day is our anniversary and the next is our daughter's birthday, but I mix them up constantly.

[blamebrampton.livejournal.com]

I've given up on the idea of an anniversary. At least he is so vague that I have no worries of him straying, he would never notice anyone trying to pick him up nor be able to pay attention long enough to pick anyone up himself ;-)

[treacle-tartlet.livejournal.com]

Small Girl: "today is your pretend birthday, mummy, and we can have a party!"
Me: "actually, it is my real birthday in one month, perhaps we should save our cake and streamers for then."
Blondie: "is it? shit!"

[blamebrampton.livejournal.com]

THEY ARE TWINS I TELL YOU!!

[treacle-tartlet.livejournal.com]

*headdesk*

You're right, though; they both do have many and various redeeming features (although the less said about exploding coffee pots, the better).

[blamebrampton.livejournal.com]

Eh, if we must have boys who are a little dim, at least we have really nice ones ;-)

[schemingreader.livejournal.com]

I had to ask the date of our wedding anniversary, and our marriage contract hangs in the middle of our living room. (It's a very pretty one, so I tend to look at the artwork on it. It's been nine years but I'm still impressed with the shiny.)

[blamebrampton.livejournal.com]

Mr B is vaguely aware that we have an anniversary, but says that he is grateful for me every day and so a dinner and gift would be redundant. I have pointed out that he is ever so lucky I am the sort of woman who doesn't need dinner and gifts. Except on my birthday ;-)

[nursedarry.livejournal.com]

Hmmm... I got the comment "What did I get you for Christmas?" from hubby as I unwrapped the lovely perfume I bought myself :) Why can't we have fanon husbands?

[blamebrampton.livejournal.com]

They would all be gay ;-)

Does he buy his own gifts, too? That would be fair, at least. Oh well, they have some redeeming qualities. Mr B is at least good looking and delightful aside from having the memory of a haddock.

[nursedarry.livejournal.com]

He doesn't do Valentine's Day, anniversary, or birthdays, either. Occassionally he does get something nice for kids or me but never when he's "supposed to". I think he thinks he's being "cool" for not observing. God only knows what he'd do if he had to do the Christmas shopping for his family :D

Oh, he did buy himself a Playstation before his deployment. So he does obviously think about stuff like that.

Yes, good thing he's easy on the eyes and a great *censored*.

[blamebrampton.livejournal.com]

Heh! Mr B at least admits it's because he's astonishingly vague ;-)

[ldydark1.livejournal.com]

This is cute, I enjoyed reading this.
How long have you been together?

[blamebrampton.livejournal.com]

Since July 1995. Although apparently it doesn't seem that long to him ;-)

[libby-drew.livejournal.com]

Happy Birthday, darling. ♥

[blamebrampton.livejournal.com]

Cheers, dear!

[lidda-anne.livejournal.com]

OWHHHH!! im trying not to laugh but that "You do a really good outraged face" just got me *LOUDSNORTGIGGLESS*

[lidda-anne.livejournal.com]

Happy Birthday btw!!! <3 *hugs*

[blamebrampton.livejournal.com]

Thanks, dear! *hugs back*

[blamebrampton.livejournal.com]

This is my problem, he does these terrible things, but then he is so charming and amusing that I just end up laughing. Probably for the best, I would feel bad if I strangled him ...

[aldehyde.livejournal.com]

eheh, mr. b is quite funny ;)

[blamebrampton.livejournal.com]

He is, the bugger. He relies on it as a survival instinct ;-)

[mytla.livejournal.com]

Well, so the man got it correctly at last, no? :)))


>You do a really good outraged face, you know!

LOLOLOL. Priceless.

No, you don't get your "Buon Compleanno" one second before the 29 :PPP

[blamebrampton.livejournal.com]

I am thinking I shouldn't have said anything until after I got the early present, then demanded another silly one for the proper day (our first present comes just after midnight and is always very foolish).

And yes, he is very amusing, and gets away with murder because of it. And rightly so in having me wait!

[shu-shu-sleeps.livejournal.com]

aww bless Mr B :)

Himself regularly forgot my birthday despite over 17 years together, and also regularly failed to spell my surname correctly.... I always put it down to his dyslexia.

The scary thing is - the conversations we would have about it were almost identical - word for word - honest to god!

In case I forget (I will be doing an exam, and likely freaking out a bit) happy birthday for tomorrow!

[blamebrampton.livejournal.com]

There are only so many Boy Excuses they are taught at Boy School ;-) Thank you! And I am pleased to see that you should be finished in time for your day!

[brissygirl.livejournal.com]

Give him points for trying Brammers.

I hope you have a good birthday tomorrow.

[blamebrampton.livejournal.com]

He's a good lad, aside from the memory thing. Thanks, dear!

[chantefable.livejournal.com]

Aww, I actually think Mr Brammers is sweet. Think about it -

this means that he actually thinks that you're so great and fun and fabulous to be with that he's not counting the years! It feels like a single day!

That's so cute. Isn't it?

And happy upcoming birthday, dear!

[blamebrampton.livejournal.com]

This is true ;-) He is a lovely chap really, though he gets away with the most appalling things due to his ability to make me laugh when I am meant to be outraged. And thank you!

[phoenixacid.livejournal.com]

*gigglesnorts* Mr. B is so funny! :P *pets you*

He must be having such a wonderful time being with you for these past 15 years that it didn't feel like 15 years at all. Time flies when we're having a ball, yes? ;)

[blamebrampton.livejournal.com]

He is hilarious, it's true. And it won't be a full 15 years until July, so he has a little leeway. If only he could remember the year we met ;-) We are having a ball, though.

[enchanted-jae.livejournal.com]

Buahahaha! I love how he tried to dig himself out by complimenting your "outraged face"!

[blamebrampton.livejournal.com]

He's so naughty, he knows I can't argue effectively while laughing!

[deensey.livejournal.com]

Awww. Better than me forgetting our anniversary last year!

[blamebrampton.livejournal.com]

Mr B is vaguely aware we must have an anniversary. At least ours isn't a wedding anniversary. Partly because the horror of trying to organise him into a wedding would see me running screaming even if I were a wedding sort of person ;-)

[deensey.livejournal.com]

Heh. Anyway, I have a cunning idea for your birthday. I'm thinking of taking you to Bodhi in the city for Yumccha one of these sundays, if you would like.

[mabonwitch.livejournal.com]

Hmmm. At what point is one allowed to start being outraged? Or supposed to be outraged? I still tend to smile with fond amusement when partner #1 asks when my birthday/our anniversary is. And we've been together 8 years next month.

...He always remembers the correct month, no? That's something.

Partner #2, of course, never needs a reminder, but she's a girl.

[grey-hunter.livejournal.com]

Yes but he probably doesn't get birthday notifications from LJ.