Sixes and sevens …
Jan. 2nd, 2013 11:59 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
blamebramptonA man I liked but was not close to died yesterday. I'm torn between great sadness, because he was a gentle and kind person who has left behind a lovely young son and a wife who cared for him deeply, and crossness, because his cancer came about through 30 years of smoking with a layer of ignoring all the OH&S rules for crafting on top of that.
And I know it's not polite or 'appropriate' to be cross, but his death is a waste. I know what it's like to lose your father when you are young, and it is really hard. I know for a fact he wished he had made different choices, but am angry with him for not doing that for years and years. Base your health choices on the next 30 or 60 years, my friends. I grew up around healthy and active octogenarians and nonagenarians (if we can avoid people trying to kill us on the road, people in my family live a long time), and surely that should be the sort of life we make our health choices based on.
Fuck it, I'm going to finish my stretches and get an early night. Recs tomorrow.
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pinkdiamond, I am thinking you a happy birthday in my head, but will send proper wishes tomorrow and try to get to NZ to see you this year!
And I know it's not polite or 'appropriate' to be cross, but his death is a waste. I know what it's like to lose your father when you are young, and it is really hard. I know for a fact he wished he had made different choices, but am angry with him for not doing that for years and years. Base your health choices on the next 30 or 60 years, my friends. I grew up around healthy and active octogenarians and nonagenarians (if we can avoid people trying to kill us on the road, people in my family live a long time), and surely that should be the sort of life we make our health choices based on.
Fuck it, I'm going to finish my stretches and get an early night. Recs tomorrow.
pinkdiamond, I am thinking you a happy birthday in my head, but will send proper wishes tomorrow and try to get to NZ to see you this year!
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Date: 2013-01-03 04:55 am (UTC)Only, we found out after talking to the family, he did. His wife had been on at him for weeks to get his little chest pains checked out. His doctor appointment was on the Friday; Thursday night he had a massive coronary and was rushed to hospital. They did all the usual things, including inducing hypothermia to try to allow extra time to restore blood flow to the brain, but to no avail.
Many years ago, a family friend knew she had a lump in her breast for a YEAR before seeing/telling anyone. And she was a health professional.
You end up with this massive grief and anger circuit. You wish they were still alive so you could throttle them!
So I'm doing what Brammers told me and making some life decisions based around not-dying soon: eating better and doing some form of exercise until I like it! Maybe my exercise should be walking/cycling to your house!